It’s a tradition -- a regiment comes home, a Navy ship docks from overseas, and reunited couples kiss for that big welcome-back photo. This time, the chosen ‘’first kissers’’ were two California lesbian sailors. Is that the right image for the new military? What’s your spin on this? Plus, whether you’re choosing to spend this time with friends, by yourself, or with family, the winter holidays bring out the best and worst in us. If you’re worried about exploding at the dining room table, we’ve got the perfect guest for you: Slate’s “Dear Prudence” columnist Emily Yoffe.